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She then proceeded to tell me about a guy she knew slightly from college, whom she’d recently bumped into a few times.
She found him attractive and wanted to register her interest, but wasn’t sure how to do that outside the context of a college party.
As Iris, who’s 33, told me bitterly, “They’ve gamified interaction.Few of their messages are returned, and even fewer lead to in-person contact. Nevertheless, men persist in swiping right on her profile only to taunt her—when I spoke with her, one guy had recently ended a text exchange by sending her a of an overweight woman on a treadmill.At best, the experience is apt to be bewildering (Why are all these people swiping right on me, then failing to follow through? An even bigger problem may be the extent to which romantic pursuit is now being cordoned off into a predictable, prearranged online venue, the very existence of which makes it harder for anyone, even those not using the apps, to extend an overture in person without seeming inappropriate. One especially springlike morning in May, as Debby Herbenick and I walked her baby through a park in Bloomington, Indiana, she shared a bit of advice she sometimes offers students at Indiana University, where she is a leading sex researcher.This idea came up many times in my conversations with people who described sex and dating lives that had gone into a deep freeze.
Some used the term paradox of choice; others referred to option paralysis (a term popularized by Black Mirror); still others invoked continues to attract users, in part because many people consider apps less stressful than the alternatives.Lisa Wade suspects that graduates of high-school or college hookup culture may welcome the fact that online dating takes some of the ambiguity out of pairing up (We’ve each opted in; I’m at least a little bit interested in you).